When I came to know that I am pregnant I remember everyone started telling me the importance of being happy and healthy during pregnancy. Of course, not just me, every mother would like to be Happy n healthy for the well being of her child. Somewhere I read that you are what you eat, so during my pregnancy I was closely watching my diet. and for my mental health ... I couldn't do better... I had faced so many issues I was so stressed... at one point my doc shouted and told you shouldn't have thought of being pregnant bcz you can't even handle your own stress for the sake of your baby, what will you do when you will have to handle so many things simultaneously... i was blank.. i ddnt know What to do, how to do... somehow time passed n i got my son in my arms... i am taking caring of him very well .. i can feel i am a changed person a bit.. BUT
as he is a toddler with a very high energy throughout the day, i know that its the time when he will throw tantrums, be angry, cry for nothing... i know everything.. but still somewhere i feel guilty... i feel like he is becoming more like me which obviously i dont want, i dont want him to grow up n become a pessimist, i don't want him to be a stubborn guy who is difficult to deal with... but then i blame it on myself that i couldn't give him a healthy womb to be a healthy child...
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Shruti Giri
31 May 2017
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Aradhana Sharma
hi dear babies show tantrums but we cannot conclude it as there permanent personality , everyom goes thru stress up n downs n then v guilt ourselves , your baby will be very much effected by environment he gets now, your love care , upbringing style will give him lots of good thing....a child learns lot of things from internal,external environment and has his own nature as well. dont be hard on yourself, blaming yoyrself , becz in your life everything cannot be controlled some times your own emotions too, o want to tell u my case, m a very sensitive person , gone thru lot of mental stress before pregnancy and during pregnancy also due to some immature people n my changing harmons I was so emotional n stressed , I was busy , cheering my self up, was doing music n all but still I had heart breaks n emotional up n downs , suddenly my healthy pregnancy turned after 6 months m I had diabetes n poly, n I went to premature labour very early, I kept blaming myself for all this for putting my babys health in trouble n cursing my stress which I wasn't able to.manage well, this was killing me inside, then when I started connecting with people who had preterm deliveries without any stress caused I opened my self , then I came to know about my friends who were on lots of stress but had happy n healthy baby . so , sometimes there is no correlation between things. I learnt to move forward n give every best to my child , this is my promise to myself, everything is not in our hand , we should accept how God has made us, no one is perfect , yes but with lessons in life learned we can do our best in present to make future bright . I know your doing best for your baby, keep motivating yourself ,don't look back and your kiddo will have beautiful future.ameen
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31 May 2017
Shruti Giri
thank you so much moms... ur words means a lot... love to all!!! group hug!!!☺
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31 May 2017
Priya Sood
Sweety! The delimmas of motherhood. Hang in there girl! Baby is just toddler. Slowly and steadily bring baby into the great attitude and behavior. A lot is in our hands to mould these saplings:) Dont lose heart. Even small things go a very long way. For eg. my toddler appreciates what i do and says thank you. He understands we all do work in the house. Its an inclusive and on going process.. he ll be a great person...muaaahhh
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31 May 2017
Jyoti Tengale
Hey <font color ="#3b5998"><b> @6372d8bf29c20f001575a1de </b></font>,calm down girl 😊. Every mother goes through this kind of feelings at some point of their life. It's just pure love and concern on their little one's they have, this love which makes moms so fragile some times. It clearly shows how much you love your little man that you are feeling guilty about yourself about his behaviours. As sadguru says don't you ever teach your baby morals and discipline instead create a situation from which baby should learn life lessons..As sumitra says meditating daily for at least 10 min will help you with inner peace..hope it helps you. stay happy....
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Sonam zarin
i can relate to you dear.... i was so stressed throught my pregnancy and that has affected ny child.....i wont go in detail as it really hurts me very badly....I too try to be positive but sometimes i fail....hope we get to manage our stress and help our child become a healthy being...
Aradhana Sharma
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31 May 2017