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Why are we so caught up? Why are we always running. After something. Away from something. Or someone?



I remember as a kid I had read the poem Daffodils by Wordsworth. I was too young to understand the meaning behind it. I used to think it was about a man going on a walk and finding some daffodils on the way and feeling happy about it.

It was only years later, when I had started working did I realise the hidden deeper meaning behind that piece. I realised that I pretty much never watched for the daffodils on the way. I probably didn't even think I had any in my life. I was way too fixated on the lack of them. I think I always went looking for the thorns in the roses.



Do you think that way too? Do you find yourself thinking that your life is nothing but one big miserable hole? A hole from which there is no way out , only in. Deep deep in? Do you find yourself complaining to yourself and to any one you meet about how things could have been better? About how the lack of so and so and such and such is making your life feel like a tiresome journey.



Think again.



You are most probably wrong.



Now don’t get me wrong here. I am not saying the problems anyone faces in their lives are nothing. We all have our own shoe to wear. We all have our battles to fight. And only each one of us knows how and where that shoe pinches.



But trust me when I say this, nothing and I mean it NOTHING can make your life miserable. Only you have the power to make it or mar it. And unknowingly or knowingly most of us end up marring it.



Why?



Because the human mind thrives on self pity. It thrives on those negative emotions of envy, guilt, anger, greed. Ever noticed how a sense of steely cold envelopes you when you experience any of these emotions. It's nothing but your mind eating up your heart and covering it with a slime of negativity. Dramatic much? But this visualisation is needed to realize the harm we are doing ourselves.



No matter what we are going through, it does not have the power to throw you down. It might put you off track yes. But it does not have the power to snatch happiness away from you.



I believe that each one of us has it in us to be happy. But most of us choose to keep the joys away. Look at kids! They are mirrors of what pure happiness is.



Apparently a human needs only 3 things to be contended- food, sleep and love. A lack or imbalance of any of these three is what causes discontentment in our lives. We may think it is money or looks or work and all that jazz. But all of it boils down to just those three. Quite like a child, isn't it?



I used to be a perpetual whiner. I would always find something or the other that was not good in my life.  If not aloud, I would certainly keep mulling it over in my mind about how my life could have been better. About how I could have looked better. About how I could have been thinner. About how I could have had a different degree. About how I could have got my crush to notice me. About how I could have been more popular. The list is just endless. And it's different for all of us. But I know a lot of people can relate to this.



Why do I always quote examples from my own life? Because I want others to know that it's possible to overcome these obstacles. We always feel that these things are not within our reach. But they very much are. It's only your mind that's stopping you from thinking so.



So what did I do to undo these thoughts. I took charge. Of my own life. I realised unless I take action to better my life, I would never be happy. All the vacations, surprise gifts, parties, clothes, jewellery aren’t going to make you feel great unless it comes from within.



And true happiness always ALWAYS comes from within you.



I am not saying I am past all of this. Nope. That would make me unreal. I am only a mere mortal. But I also hope to learn each day.



I know a very close person who is a living example of this. He lives everyday through untreatable chronic pain and still manages to smile all the time, crack the funniest jokes, talk about the deepest things, is an amazing doctor and is also one of the most brutally honest people I have ever known. He taught me without even his realising that all of us have our own cross to bear. Now it’s upon us to smile through it all or keep counting our tears.



The next time you start feeling that maybe your life could have been better, stop and ask yourself why. Also tell yourself that you already have the equipment necessary to live the life you want. YOU.



Meditate. Have courage. Be kind.



Don't lose sight of those daffodils. I am sure you will find a lot of poop along the way. (Excuse the toilet humour. Being a mother, it comes easily to us, doesn't it?) Smell the poop, smile and walk on in search of your daffodils. I am sure they are right around the corner.


Name of asana: Eka Pada Adhomukha Shwanasana or One legged downward dog.



Alignment: Start in downward dog. Exhale and lift your right leg up. Make sure your hips don't open and remain parallel to the ground. Point your toes to protect your knees. Stay for 5 breaths , inhale and bring the leg back to starting position. Exhale and repeat on the other side.



Caution: At no point should you feel a pinch on the back or the neck. Don't go so high if you are new to the practice. As your hamstrings open up you will be able to go higher. Don't do this in the 1st and 3rd trimester.



Benefits: Excellent hip opener, works on increasing flexibility of the legs overall, good stretch for the lower back, prepares you for advanced inversions.



Stay healthy. Stay happy.

Have a safe practice.

Namaste.



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