Today was my child's first day at day care. I saw him crying and reaching out to me. I too started crying. I have just joined back office after my leave. How do i deal with this horrible guilt and how do i ensure they are treating him ok. This daycare i got by reference only. I need your all advise.

Prisha Lalwani (Mummasaurus) Roopashree Siddireddy Priya Sood

This is one big leap in kid's life. I am still dealing with it. Each kid adjusts in own pace. Be strong.. Don't ever pick in the middle untill school calls you and ask you to. Once if you pick him or allow to bunk his school... then it will take him long to adjust. Let him cry... once baby his back to home... convince that every one go there. How old is your baby? This guilt is for good. So don't be sad. It's really hard time. Now you feel... days are flying soon.

hugs to u dear , initially this will happen dw doesn't that day care have cctv? and don't worry baby will be like that for few days than u nd baby will get use to the schedule make sure when it back from office u give ur 100% to baby nd spend more time with baby to make it child Comfortable and loved

I am really worried about it too that daycare will take care of the children or not. I want to put my son in daycare too but afraid 😥 that How they will  behave with my son. Totally confused.... daycare will be good for my son or bad 🙈🙈

Hi anon, if the day care provides cctv option pls do opt for that. recently I visited a pre school and was there for an hour. I saw 2 little babies who joined the same day crying for their mums and they were so uncomfortable to mingle with other kids. I was there to check for my bubs admission, once I got free and returned back to the play area, I was amazed to watch those babies happily playing with other kids. So, I would say don't worry much, don't let guilt creep in ur mind, have the access to CCTV footage and keep a watch. Kids have an amazing quality of adjusting better than adults. ❤

very helpful Neha Sharma ! hi anon pls be strong! we hv lots of useful articles on the topic. let me search and tag.

dear anon I can understand how difficult it must be for you but it is all a part of growing up. one day he will have to go to school and even then you'll have to leave him.  it is the initial separation that is difficult but it wouldn't be so bad because your kid will develop lots of social skills at the daycare and learn to share and stuff.  more power to you mother 💞

How To Choose A Playschool  . Rhituparna Mitra kindly help - i m unable to tag any daycare article!

Guilt to motherhood is like grapes to Wine,we all suffer from it the blame you created for yourself will keep growing,its easy said and done-we have to let go and things will fall in place.

The Ultimate Guide to selecting the Right DayCare for your child? this shud help u anon. tc

Give urself and it child some time to settle its not easy for either of you. specially ur little one.. he mite few days or weeks or even months... my daughter took three month to settle in playschool.. and after that she refuse to come home😙. but make sure the daycare is good as alot incidents are coming where there not handling the kids properly. so be very sure about day care u keep him... it's very important to cross verify for ur childs safety

Give yourself and the baby settling time. Keep a watch thru cctv link. Kids adopt to the change quickly. Why r u being guilty? Are you not working for betterment of your child?

I understand the guilt you are talking about. I'm a sahm but still a mom at the end of the day. Children do cry and want to be with their mothers but also the same kids adopt to changes very quickly. So just give yourself some time. Be strong

don't worry dear..it will take few days to week for your baby to settle..you have to be strong and I am sure your baby will settle soon..initially first two weeks are difficult..but after that your child will be fine seeing so many babies around and being involved in activities..
my son got settled in 2 weeks and now he himself wants to go to playschool cum daycare daily..
live CCTV access is a great relief for me to keep a track of him..like what he is eating, when he is sleeping, what activities he is doing..

The Ultimate Guide to selecting the Right DayCare for your child?

What to check when you visit a Day Care for your child?

Please don't feel guilty Anon. Things will be back to normal once you and your baby adjusts in new environment.

Hey dear don't be guilty you will feel this way during first day of day care, play school and main school. You just need to remember kids mimic adults when they will see you so independent and doing what you like they will be so proud of you when they start understanding and would want to follow your foots steps

Suggestions offered by doctors on BabyChakra are of advisory nature i.e., for educational and informational purposes only. Content posted on, created for, or compiled by BabyChakra is not intended or designed to replace your doctor's independent judgment about any symptom, condition, or the appropriateness or risks of a procedure or treatment for a given person.

Recommended Articles

Scan QR Code
to open in App