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I am a joint family. My brother in law has a 7 year old. My son is just turned 4 years. My son is learning bad language from him. I dont like this abey oye...saale..othere laugh and find it funny. Husband says itd not a big issue and ghar me kalesh hoga if i say something.



Deepali Soam(@myteenytot) Sheeba Vijesh your thoughts

dear you don't think that joint family is bad for your baby . It is the best pattern of living that is most conducive to the growth. You should explain to your baby lovingly that this is not good for him. you a mama and a mama can do everything. I know you also.

Really a difficult situation, Why don't you start with your brother in law s kid itself? afterall you are chachi and you have rights . lovingly you can tell the kid not to use those words , he is also a kid. No need to say "your cousin is learning from you" Im sure his parents are going to be offended but ultimately they will learn as well. So start with 7 yrs old kid.

y don't u train the kids together indirect solution to the problem no one will be hurt 

Very tricky situation. When kids do something wrong...and if they are not stopped immediately or if we laugh on it...they feel, what they are doing is right. They feel it's cool..they are making ppl smile, laugh or happy. As both kids are small.. you can teach both of them..not to use words rudely. Say.. a gentleman will not talk like that. Tell something inspiring. You have to keep telling them.

hi dear, you can spend time with both kids together, teach them both together good manners,the right language etc. no need to pin point what he said... kids are very smart, he will learn quickly once he understands its wrong...

Hey try to tell both your kids that its not good to use bad language. They both need to understand this. Whenever they do so please react boldly and ask others to do the same. Its not a good practice to laugh on bad language.

hey anon, pls try to teach both kids together. if the elder one doesnt listen, try to tell ur son! if u are on good terms wth SIL spk wth her, seek her help?

Please try to make everyone understand that its bad to use profanity and how will others react when they hear our kids talking profanity.  Talk to both the kids that it's bad to talk in such manner and good boys don't do it.  Everyone loves good boys.  Talk to your mil and sil about this.  If nothing helps then talk to kid's class teacher about this and ask her to talk to kids in the class regarding using of bad words. 

as all the moms are saying..u should teach both of them together

I know its a tricky situation talk to your sil and even explain kids together but some people don't want anyone to tell anything to their kids if that is the issue then make your kiddo understand this is bad. And when he uses right language appreciate him. Pick a word for a week and stop him everytime to realise he used a bad word

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