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hello everyone....since few weeks m very stressed...meri mere hubby se bina kisi kaaran jhagda ho jata h...or jhagde ka kaaran h sirf mobile...m kya karu mjhe smjh nhi aata...I know ki ladai hmesha m hi start karti hu but mere control me kuch nhi hota gusse me....jab bhi mere hubby offc se laut te h...fir khana khaakar seedhe apne mobile me lag jaate h...unko or kuch nhi dikhta...bs earphones laga lete h or youtube start...kbhi kbhi to unko pta ni chalta 2-3 hrs tak usi me lage rehte h...offc se to 9 bje aajate h but uske 12 bje tak mobile hi ni chhodte apna...fir 12 bje bolte h ab mjhe sona h neend aarai h...fir m is baat par jhagadti hu...qKi us tym m bahut bore ho jati hu mere bedroom me tv nhi h...we r joint family nd tv bahar common hall me h sirf...guys plz help...m kya karu...ab ye roj ka drama ban gya h raat me...nd I m also  8th month pregnant...😖😞



hi anon. I face similar problem with my husband. and I have friends who have the same problem. my husband is always on Facebook. the reason why they do this is because after a stressful day at work they want do an activity where they don't have to use their brains much. this brainless activity is  to organise their  thoughts and just let off steam.earlier that activity was watching TV . that activity was done together by husband and wife so wife did not feel so ignored. but now it is YouTube, Twitter and Facebook so we wives feel left out. to tackle this issue with my husband I stopped nagging him abt closing Facebook n talking to me. I just let him be for an hour or more. then sweetly interest him in some conversation. u cud take one of the ear phones n watch the videos with him to feel included. whatever u do to get his attention ( by telling him or by distracting him) just don't take the lack of attention personally. especially during pregnancy and after having babies we feel the need to connect more with our husbands n feel cared for n nurtured. it's our right. but they also need to blow off some steam so lets be more understanding of that need to reduce fights.

actually u r right Dr. Farah Adam...if there would be a tv in my room..then we could watch tv together nd enjoy it...but with this mobile...and especially with these earphones...things become worst...m kitna control karti hu kabhi kbhi ki koi baat ni aaj m kuch nhi bolungi inko youtube chala lene do..but if  same thing happens again nd again daily then I get frustrated...kbhi kbhi smjh nhi aata gussa karu, pyaar se samjhau, ya apna mood thk karne k lie kya karu?...gusse me to youtube or social medias par kuch dekhne ka bhi man ni karta...mood off hota chala jata h...fir m sochti hu lets listen to music...but ek do songs sunne k baad wo bhi acha ni lgta...or mood off me mjhe jaldi neend bhi nhi aati...kbhi to iski wajah se m raat bhar ni soti...gusse me

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