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Hello moms. My girl is in nursery. Yesterday she went to school and now she is just refusing to go. She is not telling only what the reason. I asked on our class whatsapp group. Same with one another child  The teacher has shouted very badly. I need her to go to school but i dont want to make official complaint as it may cause trouble.



asha chaudhry Sheeba Vijesh Pranita Gawande Laddha Deepali Soam(@myteenytot) what do you think!

hi anon. this is something that will keep happening :( my childoo is 10 and i had to sit her down and explain how female teachers have to deal wth so many issues and sometimes shout at kids. she is very sensitive so i hv asked her to put a shouting filter on. here's what i suggest. make a card and pretend its from the school and teacher. saying we miss u. get her a small diary & give her a star everyday as encouragement. i had lots of stickers and wud draw things on her hand to reward her whn she was little. speak to the teacher if she is open enough or get the parent rep to spk wth her gently. if she is khadoos then as the class parent rep to spk wth the co-ordinator. it doesnt hv to be a complaint. get her a playdate wth one of the classmates she likes - whn they have a good friend in class they look fwd to going. all the best. pls update us and tag me whnever. Manveen (Motheropedia_Blog) Nisha Dayal Gayatri Rao Richa Chowdhary #tagfwd

Priya Sood pls suggest!

hi anonymous... at this stage in the presence of your child, don't talk negatively about the school. but do assure her that you are there for her. tell her that you will speak to the teacher and watch out for your daughter if she is in the correct. in hindsight, please do send a note to the teacher saying that something seems to be bothering your daughter  a lot and she refuses to come to school. tell the teacher that  you are trying to inquire at home and the teacher should also speak to the child. this will help the teacher to know that the child may/ will communicate to her parents and she'll be alert in her actions. also, you be watchful. if this repeats do bring it up with the school.

Tomorrow you go with her and in a friendly way....tell the teacher.. " Ma'am.. please don't scold or shout on my daughter. She will be fine and she is good and she will learn things quickly. ok". From when she is going to school? how she was before?

Talk to the teacher and tell her that she isn't willing to come to school and please make her more comfortable. Arrange an outing with a  classmate or invite to your home.  Kids look forward to meet their friends.  If you keep on hearing from the group that the teacher shouts too much on kids then you have to make an official complaint along with other parents.

if there is a cctv camera in the class..u can ask the school that u wish to check it.report this to the teacher and ask if she has any explanation.
sometimes children say things to avoid going to school. u can casually tell ur kid that i told teacher and she said she didnt scold u? do u not like going to school? also, tell ur kid that the teacher apologized for talking in a wrong tone n she wont do it again, if she ever does u can tell me.

Children are extremely sensitive and need to be coaxed to respond. You could slowly try easing the answer out of her - what she like about school/what she does not, what she likes doing there, what is most fun etc. once she starts talking, she may actually be willing to talk about the experience that has led to this

like everyone said .. speak to the tr and also get it to the co ordinators notice.  speak to your child and make her understand ... talk to her about her friends and all the fun she has in school.. dont mention her tr as that would affect her again... all the best

don't make an official complaint...but early childhood experienCe matters for the rest of the life. So, you need to talk to your child as well as her teacher in a very friendly and positive way. From my personal childhood exp. I will tell you to get it resolved asap as it makes dark impressions on child's subconscious mind and that may cause social anxiety issues later or lack of confidence to deal with dominating personalities. So, talk to her teacher that she is lil scared and make her comfortable through affection and love and tell how kids get scared of such minor things😉 and tell your child to be a strong girl💪 always! make her understand that there are many types of people around like happy, angry,  funny, bad, good, etc. but she needs to deal with everyone very cheerfully😃 as she is the best and a very strong girl who has no fear of any anybody around her.😍 Tell her this positive side about her own personality everyday before going to sleep....! that will work like a therapy on her mind☺