hi friends .. really upset..living with in law in a joint family..m a very happy girl but  a very stressful mom ..every one in my family is fond of my lo it's great but they don't mentain hygiene at all ..don't wash hand .. before touching her. .kiss her thousand time.. though they have cold they will play with her..make loud noise will c sleep...they just don't leave her alone for a single hour only at night c is alone with me ..I get irritated alot ..only my mil.. understand it and try to tell people but no one cares about it c caught cold today . tomorrow is her vaccines ..jab thik hoti hai sab ko Khel na hai but jab rat ko wo Tang kar ti hai no one takes care it's only me or my mil..my mil is too sick now m alone ..I hate to stop any one ..coz m not that kind of a person  and my stay will last one more month only ..feels frustrated ..hubby at discuss karti hun wo alag lacture dey the hai keep patients they love her ect..when I told they don't love her but being  careful while hendeling her that all I need ..

hi rubly sorry to hear. thank god ur MIL is understanding. try to get her to help wth the hygiene issues. if baby has a cold she wont be able to take her vaccination. baby needs to be well for that. take ur husband to the dr with u and ask hygiene related q's to dr so she says everything in front of him. if u are there only for another month then just try to stay calm and manage with help of MIL. tc

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my hubby lives in Bangalore m here with my in laws.... he can't ..help and my mil can b a help but sometimes I think isnt it too rude to  tell family members to stay away this guilt stop me from doing it asha chaudhry what to do

tomo u hv a appointment with the dr, right? go meet her or call her telling about baby's cold. she will say cant give vaccine. thats when u might want to politely tell people at home that we need to take extra care for a few more months. take help of MIL and be polite. tc

today I went to dr he said it's mild cold and vaccination karwa do .. hm I will try telling people  .. thanks asha chaudhry

hi..i knw its difficult as a mom to not have much baby time... the hygine is an issue... but jus think its only 1 month... don b rude.. tey love u guys.. words or actions once done or said wil b always in their hearts... jus try to adjust... ur very  lucky to hv ppl to love her be with her... u hv no idea hw many mothers are wishin to hv ppl around for some help... cold fever wil come how much ever u take care of d baby... it only builds immunity... don fuss over this... enjoy your family time...tell them baby is sleepin don make noise...small things u can tell them...

thanksDr.Dhanya Prajesh

u can also tell them tat doctor said cold was coz of the hygine issue and baby needs peaceful sleep...wen u tell them doctor advised tey wont b hurt but tey ll also obey...

yup that's the right thing to do

see they love ur child ..n wht they dnt understand u hav to handle smartly.....like dr said so nahi to ye ho sakta h....pretend hw hygiene is important before them like u cn tell wait let me wash my hand n then i will tk the baby....ask such things to ur hubby in front of them....give them example whr unhygienic condn has caused severe problem.... even make stories for that its ok..everything is fair in love ....Remember dnt go directly....reminds them u r thankful for their gestures..... n yes thoda jhut bol lo...like dr ne bola h...ni to ye ho skta h...etc...

Agree with Dr Dhanya,  tell them politely that doc told us to  maintain hygiene, u can do one thing whenever they want to hold baby just give them hand sanitizer tell them politely papa mummy please apply this on your hand it's for baby health. For kissing baby u can ask ur husband to discuss because u can not tell them directly. Find out some way.

thanks again really feeling good... hopefully​ I can handle it the way u all said.. thanks all

pareshan mat ho dear...apne inlows ko pyar se samjao..samjane ka tarika change karo .unko unki language me hi samjao .ki isse baby ko problem ho sakti hai.apne husnand ko bhi bolo ki mai appke ghar valo ko kuch nahi bol rahi hu but muje baby ki bhi care to karni hai na.hope vo samjengy.or kal jao dr ke pas or aram se dikhao dr ko .apne mind ko clear karo..kuch bato ko positive lo..har kaam ko stressful tarike se mat karo.freemind raho dear.plz take care of ur baby.n lots of lov

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