one of my 2y9mo twin boys has been short tempered and excessively stubborn on some days and those days usually pass.
Some days I lose my cool but most days I happen to pull him out of his tantrum calmly. Past one week he has been getting so angry... He wants to eat candies and sweets several times a day, or will howl for the smartphone, or will want to go to the balcony(not truly safe), or he will stick to one thing that he wants to do, anything at all and goes crazy after it. he keeps getting angry and since he is strong he hits me once or max twice and it hurts. I gve him a wide eyed angry stare and that usually does the job. If he's not hitting he will hit whatever i offer him or will take it and throw it away really hard. He also gets scared and threatened and can't even cry properly because of fear when we scold him hard because there's just no stopping him. For instance he mostly wants to sleep on top of me and some days ur belly hurts or ur back hurts and u can't have a 3 yo on top of you and he just won't understand.
I am not being able to calm him down, though he did have such anger in the past as well and we could handle it... Either we would convince him or a lot of times give in to his anger as well. If we ignore his tantrums he gets even more agitated and will throw himself on the floor and often hurt himself or will throw anything he finds around.
This usually comes in phases and then fee days he is the sweetest and quietest child ever.
Is this how some boys learn to manage their anger? What should I do?