Girls I need urgent help....

My friends niece is in 5 the standard and is a very well behaved girl... She is very social by nature and very talkative...2 months back her tution teacher took a class sex education and taught the children about good and bad touch...after that it's been a month she has completely changed and became very shy, angry, possessive..don't know what it is but she has changed a lot and yesterday when her mother cried in front of her in frustration and asked her what has happened to her she told that somebody touched her down and she kept crying.... She is not saying anything except someone touched her...who where when ..we don't know... Her father said may be she took the class seriously and now imagining things....

I am scared to death... Please suggest what to do....

asha chaudhry; Sheeba Vijesh Sumira Bhatia Dr. Shilpitha Shanthappa

Shruti,,, no need to panic.. just let her calm down by herself.. stop talking about what when and how.. just keep an eye on her behaviour and also about her sorroundings.. give her a break.. take her to do some favourite things like shopping or trip or picnic or some of her favourite things or favourite dishes or surprise gifts.. if she is not changing at all even after trying hard, then it will be best to have counselling..

Oh dear!! Did you speak to the parents of other children's parents? Maybe they know something! I feel best thing to do is to be brave and try and coax her to talk ! Probably she's feeling guilty and maybe somehow you can reduce the feeling of guilt . . Seeing professional help as well of possible . . Sending her lots of positive vibes and love and blessings

Also refrain from saying that she's imagining it in front of her

Hey shruti - sorry i missed this tag. Let me tag our experts first Niyati Shah - Averti Sonal S Raja

Hi Shruti, it is indeed of concern when a child speaks like that. First of all, I would like to know if the teacher is a teacher, who knows how to share this information with children? Did he or she take your permission before doing this session on good touch or bad touch? It is such a sensitive topic; not everyone should be allowed to speak to your child about these things. Please do not burden the child with so many questions - even if it is false or true. Do jot take these things lightly. If the child is crying, please consult a counselor or child psychologist. Treat is s important and urgent.

Sonal S Raja; hello ma'am..thanks for the revert...
The tution teacher has the proper education required for Montessori Schools... Because of some family issues instead of doing job she takes classes...she is like a family and yes it was a well informed session....
The girl is fine now and she didn't say anything about the incident again and nobody is really trying to ask anything about it too...
I will explain one incident to you... One day she was throwing her toys and after a while she herself picked up everything.. nobody told her too do so...but when her father came she told him that mom scolded me and that's why I kept everything at place and Became a good girl... I was there nobody said anything to her..it's just that she knows what happens next every time... Few months back her mother was complaining that she has become an attention seeker a lot these days...I don't know how these things are related but they feel she just wanted to gain some attention... We are still working on it

Shruti Giri does she have anyone in home who behaves like this to seek attention? Is her mom carrying or has recently delivered and she feels getting ignored?

Totally agree wid sonal s raja ....

Ujjwal Mishra(SuperMommy); her mother is not pregnant and being a single child living in a joint family she gets the attention whenever she wants.... I don't know about all the family members much ... But what I have observed about her is whenever she is being scolded she get upset and try to divert the topic and if she couldn't do it she just hugs and kiss and do whatever makes you less angry on her... She starts pleasing everyone if she makes any mistake and realize...

Sonal S Raja do you think that it has to do with her temperament or something had happened really??