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Hi... My daughter is 2 yr & 4 months old... She get angry soon & started hitting me.

Plz help me how to tackle her



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Hi surbhi - my hubby's nephew wud do that with me so i got him a big blow up (inflatable) toy and named him pittumal. I told him to punch pittumal when he was angry. That helped!

Surbhi Kochar this age is very difficult to handle... Children does everything for a purpose whether its for your attention or something that they want desperately and not getting...
When she is angry don't talk to her at all..avoid any verbal communication, take her close, hug and kiss..if she is resisting don't hold for long but stay with her until she calms herself down....your verbal warning will make her more angry as she won't understand or won't be in a mood to understand...
Don't raise your voice or hand in any case at all...it will make the behavior persistent...
If she is crying let her cry for a while take her to another place and when she is a calm, talk exactly what she wanted and why she got angry...
Even if it's a long process for a minute problems it makes a big difference in their behavior...
It will convey her that she doesn't need to be angry or to hit you to let you know what she wants, she can talk...
Have a connecting time, happy time and talk with her as much as you can, so you can gain her trust and make her understand that whatever she is doing to you or to anybody is not a good behavior...
Hope it helps!!!

Thanks Shruti giri for ur advice.. I tried few things as u said like giving hugs & kiss. Taking away from that place. But some times she don't get clam by myself... She goes to my mother in law & within seconds she gets clam down. At times they are just attention seekers.
She hits my mother in law also and other children's at our home, so it's very difficult situation.

Surbhi Kochar; ok tell me how many times it happens that someone is scolding..she goes to other person and then the other person intervene and do as per her wish??? This will make her behavior more difficult tackle...if it's the case tell all the family members not to do it... Plus...have you heard of the book 'hands are not for hitting' ..if she can read it please get it for her... And Expain why it's not acceptable and what she should do when she is angry ...
Usually I am somewhat against the reward and punishment things but at a point it's the only way out....
How about Appreciating her good behavior, reward at times ...

This is the book...if you feel that she is interested in books u can give it a try....but don't make her read..you read it loud so that she can hear and discuss all the good behavior in front of her...

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Don't worry...I know how it feels... You will get through it!!! 😍

Thanks asha for the advice & links u hv shared. I tried ones ur idea of hitting any object.. I will try again may be it helps

Thanks shruti... It happens around 12 to 15 times a day. When I scold her or hold her hands, she goes to other r members of family. They bribe her or do as per her wish. So whatever I do goes in vain at; times. It's getting difficult day by day.

With time she will be normal. I will try this book

Dear Surbhi Kochar,
At this age toddlers are establishing their self in their world.they will test the waters and find out what works and what does not .
At the same time, there is s lot of stimuli all around and the need to experience it all and react is also very high.
Start by helping her express her displeasure in more appropriate ways..
Engage her in more energy draining activities.
Make sure she is well rested, not hungry or thirsty ( check for a pattern in her anger outbursts).
Give her words and other actions to express.
Model the behaviour / action for her and reward her when she does.
And finally be patient and consistent while doing all this...!!!
Wishing you lots of love and luck

Thanks bethsheba.... My daughter don't; express herself.... I'm working on her...


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