Q:

My MIL just doesnt bother about my younger one who is 2 years old.
My husband too is of the same nature
I got frustrated today N indirectly told her many things,but all came bk to me only.



Priya

Amreen, big hug. Try to talk openly and calmly with hubby on this. Give examples as about why you feel the way you do. Make him understand how you feel about your younger one. Pls don't be upset. You need to be happy at this time . Don't let things bother you

Ankita Mishra

All children need to be looked properly and cared. If they don't care then you care for them, coz in long run these kids will become ur support. I can understand your problem well. But tell hubby raising kids in proper environment and taking care of their health and emotional fitness is vital for their development then just bearing them..you can download some vedios and show them to hubby or ask him to spend more time with you and kid. Hope he understands you very soon

aradhana sharma

What you did is important ,now relax and next time if some one comes with argument and issues try to be calm and answer and mKe them understand. Take care of yourself,if needed keep a maid who can support;; for your babys care.. pray ,meditate , think of your coming baby... He needs lot of care inside n out...lods of love.. take care

Revauthi rajamani

Amreen
I understand that it's practically difficult. Your in-laws are a crucial part of your;spouse's life. This makes them a crucial part of your life as well. Never put your spouse in a situation where he or she has to choose between you and a relative. If you do so, you're putting your spouse in a nearly impossible bind. Instead, try to understand the bond your spouse has with his parents . If possible, try to support that relationship. Even if your spouse has parents from hell, they are his or her parents. Whenever possible, avoid communicating through a third person .; If something bothers you, address it as soon as possible. Sometimes it's a genuine problem; other times, it might be a misunderstanding. Many times, the best thing to do is nothing. Time heals many wounds; and wounds many heels. Your parents have to love you; it's natural But your in-laws don't. Accept the fact that your in-laws aren't your parents and won't follow the same rules. Try to think "different"; Learn to see the situation from your in-law's point of view. And even if you don't agree, act like a big person. Even if you have to grit your teeth, try to say something nice. And if you really can't say anything nice, shut up and smile. This is bitter reality. You are worth more than what you

Isha Pal

Most important thing for you only your baby... So just relax.. and ignore unnecessary things..

Resham Java

Hi Amreen, I think every young mother has gone through this phase some or the other time in life it is very important that you understand that you are responsible for your own child the minute you have certain expectations from any of the family members this is the way you may get hurt if your family is supportive and is active to help you with your parenting good enough but in case you see that you are not getting something that are expecting I would say leave it right there because these instances will keep repeating and the person who will get deeply hurt will be any you in fact I would say the grandparent is Losing on a lot of love that one could gain from a toddler so it is important that they realise the importance of spending good quality time with their grandchildren and this cannot be taught I hope you understand what I am saying and wish you all the best for the future please do not get irritated of waste your time energy and effort over such issues Rather, focus positively on different things which can help your children grow better.

Kavita Sahany

Happens dear...no worries...
But avoid saying all this again as it hardly helps..let's do it by examples and thinking that it's our responsibility...gradually people around us may / may not learn to love and be caring ...but your love care and concern will fill all gaps!! Be strong and positive and loving ..also take care of yourself and be happy always ...generate positive vibes all around ..tc

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