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Hello all.. i want to share my problem with all of you.. plz help..plz suggest
Meri marriage 20 April 2016 ko hui.. 1 saal bht hi pyara nikla.. april 2017 m mere husband bimar ho gye.. bht tym admit rhe.. 3 months m kuch thik hue.. mene unki un Dino bht bht seva ki.. bht dhyan rkha ek bacche ki trh.. puri puri raat unko god m leke baithi rhi.. jaagti rhi.. thik b hue wo.. hmara pyaar bda.. kuch tym m pregnant hui.. or sb kuch thik hua.. bt September October 2017 aate aate ghr walo ki wjh se hmare beech jhagde hone lge.. MIL dono side ho leti.; Ladai b krwa deti or khti b ki meri liye mt ldo.. mene kbi kisi se kuch ni kha.. government job m hu.. acchi salary h about 50k.. bt kbi kisi ko feel ni honr dia ki m job krti hu ya ye paise mere h.. kuch b lia thoda b kharch kia to husband se puch k kia.. jhagdo k beech m mere upr haath b uthane ki koshish ki.. muje ye kha ki apne maa baap k ghr chli jao.. yha rhna h to sb kuch shna hoga.. meri job bhar h to jada hm sath b nhi rhte.. lga ki ab tk alg rhe h shyd isliye jhagde hue to tym se phle hi maternity leave le li ko unke sath rh sku.. apna bna sku.. 10 November ko leave le li or sath rhne lgi..kuch tym thik rha... Pregnancy aage bdne lgi to tbiyt b kbi kbi kharab rhne lgi.. ghr ka sb kaam ni kr pa ehi thi.. parents in law ko najro b buru bn gyi.. mother in law ko kaam krna pd jata to to puri colony m khti ki ye to soi rhti h.. husband ko b yhi sb khti..tb fir se chahe tbiyt kharab ho..kaam m lgi rhne lgi..ek helper k liye kha to mna kr dia sbne.. saas b ulta sidha bolne lgi sb so jau to.. chahe kitni tbiyt kharab ho unhone mujse puchna baat krna band dia kyuki m unki ni kr pa rhi thi.. pregnancy m b m 8-8 hours tk bhuki rhti thi coz himmat ni hoti thi uthne ki.. MIL kbi puchtu ni thi.. brother in law b baat krna band kr gya apni Mummy ki wjh se sb k beech 15 March 2018 ko baby hua cesarean.. 1-2 din thik rha.. mene apni mummy ko bula lia 2-4 din k liye.. tb meri MIL meri Mummy se choti chiti baato m ldne lgi ki aapni wjh se iska cesarean hua h.. tumne jaane kya khilaya tha shaadi se phke jo is age m iska BP high hua.. even meri Mummy mere ghr ni gyi kbi hmesha hi hospital m bhukhi pyasi sunti hui mere pas rhu ki meri tbiyt na khwrb ho.. nhaane k liye 2 din m 1 baar ghr jaati tb b meri MIL bolti unse ki breakfast bna k aana.. jhadu pocha krke nhi aae.. ghr gnda chid k aa gye..tb b Mumma cgup rhi.. mere husband b apni Mummy ki krte h.. unhone kbi ni kha ki aap Priyanka ki mmy se aise kese khte ho.. tb hospital m hm dono ka jhagda hua.. khub roi pr unpe koi effect ni oda even akele hone pr meko bht buri buri sunane lge.. mere aansu ki meri tbiyt ka koi effect ni oda bs sasural walo ko ek hi baat ki vaby thik ho bs chahe muje kuch ho jae.; Husband ka b yhi sb.. discharge hui hospital se to meri Mummy ghr ba aake sidhe apbe ghr aa gyi.. 2-3 din thik hi rha.. meri MIL hubby kisi ka support ni rha ki baby puri night jgta h.. rita h.; Breastfeeding krta h.. m b Caesarian delivery se thi.. bht weakness thi bt koi effect bi . Khub roti akele m.. mil b service krti h.. unhe leave lebe ko bola ti b nhi li.. akele hi khud ko or baby ko handle krti rgi.. apbe parents ko bola ki yha se le jao to in-laws ne mna kr dia..jese tese mere parents aae 14 April ko or muje apne sath le gye tb b sbne bsby ko hath m leke bola ki breastfeeding ki problem h nhi to isko bhej dete or baby ko yhi rkhte.. yha aabe k baad husband be Call krns bnd kr dia m krti to khte tum hi kr lia kro . Wo mechanical engineer the.. govt job ki preparation k liye unhone job chod tgi January m..tb se hi ghr h. Or sb bAto m rokna tokna.. MIL ka choti choti sb baate kgna fir mere upr gissa hoba..chota bhai unka sb dekgta tha or khush hot th.. ki bhabhi bhle mr jae but nere bhai ki 10 min ki neend b kharab bi honi chaiye.. theb jb baby huato baby k kuch saaman chaiye the ti inse oucha ki online order kr ku.; To inhobe aana kani krte hue ha krdi.. bsaaman mngata..uske baad m aone ghr aa gyi to baaki saman mebe aone hi account se aobe ghr irder kia..job chodne ki wjh se ye mere upr depend h to neri net banking I'd use krte h. Inke pas msg jane lge deduction k.. fir muje kuch aobe kiye chaiye tha to pucha inse to inhibe muje bht sunaya ki ab tk ouch rhi ho jo ab formulty kr rhi ho.; Khub smjhata inhe bt bhi suni.. bht gnda bola mujse ir ohin rjh dia.. 2 din tk call ni kia.. 20 April ko marriage anniversary thi to b koi call msg ni.. raat ko mene call kia 9 bje to b bs lda hi meko.. bht roi... Fir Mummy papa ko btaya sv . 21 April kou call ni.. kl 22april birthday tha mera tb b inhine wish ni kia.. tb b bht royi..baby ko b pyar krba ka bf jrane ja mb ni krta fir.. kl 3 bje suddenly mere husband ir devar ghr aae bs mere parents se hi baat ki mere pas aae b ni.; Oapa ko alg le jaaje bht baate krbe kge.. tb papa ne bola ki beta agr order kr b lia to ye koi aisa issue ni h jisoe tum baat b na kro.. jaabe lge tb v bht ld k gye ki agr apba ghr bnaba h to sb dhna hoa chup rhna hoga.. govt jov hogi ghr m hogi.. chage khi ki collector bn jao pr mere sath chup hoke or sb sh k rjmhna goa baaki tumari mrji or chle gye or ab tk koi call ni.; M ab ni rhna chati in sbke sath.. devar b aisa h ki bhai chahe murder kr de bt bhai shi h.. overall sb ki thinking ek jesi h. Kl JB ghr se gye to rota chodte gye or ab tk koi call ni.. m kya jru?? Kese sb thik kru



Anonymous

Priya Sood Khushboo Chouhan Satarupa B Kaur Neha Mani Mishra Neha Agarwal

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Sonal S Raja pls help

Neha Mani Mishra

Ye ek bht hi difficult situation hai apke liye. Pehle to apka baby chota hai aur AP bhi bht weak ho abhi. Agar apki jagah main hoti to thoda sa importance apne self respect ko bhi deti. Sbse pehle bat to AP kisi bhi mamle mein Kisi se kam nhi ho to ye sochna chor de ki sab Kuch sehna apki majburi hai. AP self dependent ho. Infact apke pati apke upar dependent hai aur tab bhi apki koi respect uss ghar mein nhi ho rahi. Iski sirf ek wajah hai. AP pehle apni khush respect karo. Saas ho ya husband Kisi ka koi haq nhi ki apke parents ko ulta seedhe kahe. AP ek stand lo. Aur uss par tike raho. Ap sahi bat ke liye bolo. Jhukna utna hi chahiye jab tak apke tootne ki naubat na aye. Husband ko bhi smjhao ki paise apke hai aur AP jaise chaho kharch kar skte ho. Baby apka hai. AP khushi se use palo. In sab family tension ka Asar sbse jyada baccho pe padta hai. Batcheet se koi Rasta nikaliye. Aur agar na nikle to ap apne baby ke liye jo best ho wo karo. Qki ap patang nahi ho, panchi ho. koi dor apko rok nahi sakti.

Neha Vij

Hi dear. Aapki condition padh ke Bohot rona aa raha hai. Bohot hi jyada bura lag raha hai. Aap itni educated Ho , self dependent Ho, aapko itna humiliation nahi sehna chahiye tha. Hum Sab apna ghar bachane ki koshish karte hain and Sab kuchh Sehte rehte hain. But ye galat hai, nip the evil in the bud . Jis hisab se aapne family members ke baare mein bataya hai, I don’t think Wo change Ho Sakte hain. And ab aap Akele nahi Ho.aapka Baby bhi hai. So get strong now. Know your strengths and take a stand for yourself. Apne parents ko involve kar ke pls Ek firm step lijiye as hum girls ko apne ya apne parents ki self respect par kuchh nahi tolerate Karna chahiye.

jyoti

Maine apki story pdhi AP Naukri krti ho AGR apne Kuch bol Diya to sbko lgta h ki AP salary pate ho isliye apko ego h husband chahte h AP ek perfect bhu bnker rho ghr k Sara kam bhi Kro AR paiso SE bhi help Kro AR unki MAA ko Kuch n bolo dekhiye riste nibhane k liye ek lady ko hi satisfied krana prta h Mai bhi job krti hu MERI bhi same problem h mere bhi husband chahte h ki Mai ghr Bhar dono achhe SE manage kr lu MERI sadi 2sal ho gye h mera ek 4month k baby h AR Mai maternity leave PR hu AGR hum dono Mai jhgda HOTA h to mere husband kbhi mujhe manate nai kbhi ye nai KHA k Chlo Maine got bol Diya ya KAH Diya phle SAS MERI husband ko datti thi PR ab wo bhi nai bolti APNI bete ko Mai bhukhe so Jau Kisi ko frq nai prta h PR Mai apne riste nibhane k liye unse phir sorry bol k bat krti hu Mai kam utna hi krti ho jitna mujhse HOTA h Mai ek kam krti hu Mai jban SE Kuch nai khti AP bhi aise hi manage kijiye kriye utna hi jitna AP kr ske lekin boliye MT riste nibhane k liye manage to krna hi prega hr bat parents SE MT btaiye unhe tkleef hogi isliye AP apne riste ko child mind hokr bachaiye AR gusse Mai akr Kuch glt kdam MT uthaiyega

Kavita Sahany

Really sad hearing this ...but waqt ek aisi cheez hai Jo Sab kuch theek Kar deta hai..n honestly Jan take Sahi waqt nahi ata tab take aap Kuch bhi Karke theek nahi Kar. Sakte..
Aap apni duty theek se Karen hamesha ki tarah.koi bhi wrong khayal Apne Dil se Nikal de and sabke liye ek Acha thought create Karen ...Sab Acha Hoga sochen...apna khayal rakhen n baby Ka bhi khayal rakhen....
Tension na Len...Sab theek hojayega and Sab samajh jayenge....husband yaa SAS se baat Karen normally without any complaints or arguements...gradually they will understand your value ...khud se talk initiate Karen agar koi baat nahi karna Chahta.
Jab hum sabko maaf karke naye rishte shuru Karne ki sochen ...think in your mind ..they are good soul ....it will come back to you as reflection ..they will also start thinking good...just try it once ...take care ..

Anonymous

M hr chij ki maafi maang chuki hu.. even mera ATM card mm kbu use ni krti.. husband hi rkhte h..kbi unse ni puchti ki paiso ka kya kia.. kyu nikale.. ya kyu transfer kiyee.. ki wo job ni jre to unhe chube nhi.. bt jis tym unki apni tbyt kharab ho tb bht aage piche honge otherwise full ego m rhenge.. bs ab ye smjh hi ni aa ra ki kya kru kese kru.. MIL ko b kuch kha to wo yhi khegi ki tu iske piche pdi h.. mere parents b bht tension m h ki kese starting kre..bs ya to ab sb thik ho jae ya m alg ho jau..even puri pregnancy mene 2-3 suit m nikal di; cause khte h nye kpde kise dikhane h. Ye kya krna h..wo kya krna h.. fir b dever ye kh k gya ki saada h hm.; Saade hi rho.. even Mene lipstick bindi b use krna bnd kr dia ki ye khush rh.. bt all is vain

Kavita Sahany

Aap kya chahti hain abhi ?? Kya ho; to apko acha lagega ??; In sabse dur rehkar. Khus rahe payengi?? Wahi Karen Jo apko happy kar sake.;; Anything that makes you happy will be right ...but before you decide on the future path you have to think and ask yourself a few questions and take a firm decision and follow it ...
Trust yourself and follow your instincts ...take care ..

Sonal S Raja

Please try and stay at your parents house or independently and focus on your baby instead of these issues. All the behaviors around you and even your reactions will have a negative impact on your mental and physical health and your child too. Get professional help, videos you are in a big city usually there are ngo to help women in distress and may are online too.

Neha Agarwal

As advised by Sonal, please HT professional help / Counselling. You need a shoulder near you to lean on to and discuss face to face. Hope you feel better and work out the best solution for yourself. You will have to be strong and take a decision and stick by it and move on.

Neha Vij

Kya aapko lagta hai aap separate hokar apna and baby ka Khayal rakh payengi? Aapke parents ready honge? Wo support karenge aapko? Aap baby ka future Akele bright kar payengi. Usko kuchh incomplete lagega life mein to?
In Saare questions ka answer Khud ko dijiye and fir hi kuchh step sochiye. Sirf back out ke baare mein Mat sochiye . Wahan reh ke, strong hoke fight bhi kar sakti hain apne right ke liye. Bohot NGOs bhi hain jo women dignity ko le ke serious hain and help karti hain. Try to contact .

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