Q:

Dear all
Very sad n I would like to cry loudly hearing my family members words
I'm living with husband with his mom,his mom's sister n hismom's mother n his sister
Yesterday night I went out for walking meanwhile they all have complained to my husband that baby is delayed to be born only because of my behavior
That is I'm resting all the day
I'm 38 weeks 4 days pregnant and they said they all have birth at least 20 days before delivery and for then all cervix was not opened but for me cervix was 1cm open before a month
Im indirectly killing my child by taking complete rest since my head is not fixed into my pelvis so I'll take to vacation where no one in family had c secyion
I'm so tired and I'm resting
I'll do small household works since doctor has advised to take only rest
But these people are keeping on cornering me and making me cry all the time



Preetha Dhanasekar

Hey Malar. I do understand your position. It's sometimes hard for others to understand our situation. You please go by the advice of your doctor. Talk with your husband about your concerns. I'm sure he might be of help for you. For now, it is very important to focus on your baby and delivery. Keep talking to your baby. I hope going for walking will be fine for you, but you get consent from your doctor about it. Don't worry. Just don't keep thinking about what they say. Concentrate on your baby and have positive thoughts that you will deliver a healthy,; strong baby at the right time. The mother's thoughts are the most important thing that is connected to the baby. So take it easy. Listen to spiritual songs. Start reading story books, do creative stuffs like drawing and painting. Bond with your baby more. Your tension will reduce. Do pranayama/ breathing techniques. Meditate atleast 20mins. Stay strong. You are the best friend for your baby. You know your baby the best. So cheers girl! Stay happy!

Mala Srinivas

Malar. it's sad you have live btw such ppl, it's sad you have surrounded by ppl with no sense of relationship, it's sad they are not concerned about you and your baby but have a list of complaint. Girl you don't be sad your baby inside you deserves a better place to live so, 'U BE ONE'. Your babies world is you. U dont cry for those who dont stand by you. Chear up bcoz u are a wonderful woman who ll soon deliver a asset. C section or normal delivery does not matter to you baby. Your baby knows it's you and you ll show the world. Crying and pain is not for baby. If I was in your husband's place I would never bring this up to you. Please ask him to refrain from all this and let u be happy. You take rest bcoz your body and baby needs it. Good luck dear.

Rishi Paayal

Dear let them tell.u dont take abything to ur mind.u r doing great job.its not in ur hands.they r illiterates leave dem.just pray god listen music; concentrate on ur baby

Kavita Sahany

Hey dear ...dont worry and areas yourself ...ignore ignore n ignore ...take care of; yourself and your baby to come ..just focus on that ..after the baby comes all will be well. ..Go by what your doctor says ..All the best; and take care .;

Rebecca Prakash

What nonsense logic this must be and mother in laws plays vital role in creating conflicts.. Sad you are going through this, speak with your doctor in front of your husband about this.

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