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all mother-in-laws needs counseling(one day i should also need one)she always telling my little girl who is now 6 month and always love to be with her mother,will never love or need me.. she only needed her grandma only...how can she tell that to a mother...she also knows how it will hurt me.. she's also a mother know...how can she say that my child will hate me and will love her only...she always saying this all the time...i will get a bad mood after hearing this..i know she loves my child but is this is the way to teach my child good manners...how can she become a good person if she didn't respect her own parents..90% mother -in -law's are same like this



Alphonsa Martin your child will always love you most. Don't worry about this .. just maintaina strong  bond with your little one. Can imagine this must hurt you but don't let it affect you too much. If it hurts you too much tell your mom in law gently but firmly how you are feeling. She may not stop fully but may lay off for a while. Take care!!

don't worry Alphonsa Martin. your baby will always love you. try to spend more time with your child. so that she recognize  you nd loves you.

hey dear..  stay positive..  love ur baby so much that ther is never a space for hatred..  and even if she ask u someday than u can divert her mind by saying that grandma is kidding with you..  its in our hands na dear..  dont worry be happy and stay positive with ur baby..  :)

Ya am doing my best to keep that type talks away..but i don't know why they don't understand all babies will not be same as her baby(i mean my hubby and my brother in laws )they were too chubby in their childhood..but it's common na baby's will look like their parents

well, if I were in your place. I will definitely tell  mother in law to stop this immediately as I am the mother now and I would not tolerate such talks as this will definitely affect the relation between me and my child. This is my way of handling the situation as I am outspoken and I never hide my emotions especially anger. Now it depends on you how you tackel the situation. but this is your child, you gave birth, you suffered from pain and you are the one who bring this beautiful flower to theirs life. so, you have every right to be angry and to be heard.

Alphonsa Martin no one can take mother's place....be motivated girl... it's phase which comes in women's life when you stay with elders... we can't expect ppl to change unless we are able to change ourselves.... believe in yourself and give love to both.... hatred cannot kill hatred but love can...I know saying is different than practicality applying it but trust me when you do it would be peaceful for everyone.... these small things lead to bigger issues and elders are just like kids they sometime don't understand... treat both equally...it will all be ok... personal experience....I give more love to ppl when get caught in such situations.... good luck and lots of love 😘


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