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hello my daughter is 3.9years old now day she adapted some form of different behavior that she starts crying on one and other things. as one time she spread all her cryons on the floor and i was eating dinner and she wants that i had to pick them and i saidu through ur colours then u have to pick it yourself and she starts crying. what to do? this is only one eg



Priya

Hi Vaishali. Kids will be kids. Im in the same boat. In fact exact same case. As kids grow older they want to ascert their own idea of self independence. They do throw tantrums at times. Reason works best and defining a system where action leads to an outcome. Take a look at helpful articles How to Manage temper tantrums in kids?, How to – Keep Calm And Tame Your Toddler’s Tantrums. What say Roopashree Siddireddy, Ankita Popli, Dr. Payal M ?

Roopashree Siddireddy

Hai ..  I can relate to myself these things. For this kind of behaviour...there are many reasons. When they are sleepy or hungry.. they still don't know how to express. This will be the main reason of crankiness. As we give lot of instructions... do this..do that. Do it now... When they become cranky...they try to imitate us. Also just see whom she is watching or being with. .  . some cartoon characters also have an impact on them. Top most reason is "attention and suppression". Sometimes kids will find something interesting or they do something which they feel is very big. They come to share with us. But we may be busy working or on phone. That ignorance towards them... will have impact. when they talking​... sometimes we ask them to stop..that suppression will erupt in other ways.
In my case i give her all my time. But my hubby is too much addictive to TV and mobile. She will try to get his attention...when she fails next day ..she will be very misbehaved kid.
Remember whatever they go through...night they dream in exaggerated way . Which will have an impact like "after-effect".
when she ask you to do ....do that thing and say..what you are asking is wrong. Later ask why they behaved in that way. Usually they will tell the truth.

Gayatri Rao

Kids cry unreasonably when they want attention. Why dont you pick the crayons with her and say that both of you'll will pick it up together this time?

Ashika Imthiyaz

completely agreed wt Roopashree Siddireddy when kids need ur attention.. they l b more cranky unreasonably.. wanna share my experience here when Shez nearing to ten months old ... my kid was not much cranky wt me as she spent all day nd night wt me but Shez S wt her dad... once my hubby watching TV interestingly nd my kid was playing wt her toys..i was at kitchen by watching them from der itself..  my baby s too small enough that she's not knowing to call her dad nd she wants to get some attention from my hubby.. so Shez doing some gestures.. but my hubby didn't noticed it.. so my hubby throw her toys near to my hubby which makes sounds got attention by hubby... nd my hubby complaining me that Shez throwing away all the toys.. after watching all these.. I said Shez not throwing.. instead she knows very well than me to get ur attention... I always strongly believing that kids r too smart than us..nd it's very easy to handle them when v know the trickz.. I guess..

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