Take a moment to pause and look into your child’s eyes. You will find an urge - which says, “Slow down mumma, let me cherish your touch, let me rejoice in your love, let me savour your words and let me enjoy your care.”
Life and parenting at its core, is based on our connection with the other being. Through that connection, we realize our own being and existence.
When we are truly present in our everyday moments of connection, we get to know so much about ourselves and grow and expand in various unimaginable ways.
Mindful parenting is all about paying attention to those things that add life to your lives. Here are some simple steps to do that:
1. Regular introspection:
Examine and introspect your daily and weekly schedule and look for things to prioritse.
Check how much time your children spend in school or in daycare, with babysitters, in watching TV or playing with gadgets, at sports practices, in music lessons etc. Make a note of how much or how little time is left then.
Is it in alignment with how much time you want to spend with your child?
Time for your family to play together, read together, laugh together or time to simply be, without any distraction of phone and internet; are just as important (may be more important) as those activities.
Reduce what you can, from your lives and make space for ways to build connection into the things you cannot eliminate. For example, if your child has homework every day, how about sitting down and enjoying doing the homework with them.
It is important to keep the focus on building healthy connection, rather then having the pressure of doing the homework in best way. That will naturally happen when you slow down and create a deeper understanding and bond with your child.
As humans, we learn better through interaction and play. Playing with them will not just help you connect with the child but will also enrich your child in many ways.
If you are a working mom and have very less time at home, make sure you play in that time rather than fussing over homework or any other chores to finish. This quality time spent will ensure all other chores will fall in space.
4. Keep your cool at all times
Come what may, keep your cool. Recognise that your daily battles are not emergencies! The more you stay cool and calm, the better results you get.
Example – Consider playing some nice music in the house to cheer everyone up in the early morning rush hours. See if you can wake everyone up half hour earlier with a lovely smile, to ease the morning stresses that otherwise might lead to panic and struggles which can result in a parent / child disconnect.
Slow down and enjoy the connection that your building with your child even while simply getting ready! Your energy will transform everyone’s energy around you.
5. Constant reminders:
Keep reminding yourself of the fact that parenting is not just about raising children but raising yourselves. It is about our own growth, transforming us into the human beings we could be.
You'll find that parenting is learning to live life and be the person you can be.
As you live your life, your children learn about life as well.
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