HIV, Marital Abuse, Separation from Baby: Jyoti braves it all!

“I don’t let negative things bother me because deep in my heart I know I haven’t done anything to be afraid of.”

 

But Jyoti has done a lot to be in awe of. A Cindrallesque stepmother, a lost career dream, a hearing disability from the age of 3, an utterly sexually abusive husband who also forced her to give up two babies in the womb (as if, marital rape wasn’t enough) and snatched away the third one who she decided to give birth to, HIV attack due to medical negligence at the hospital during her abortion, a divorce without consent and more – are just a few highlights from the contours of Jyoti’s rather difficult life.

 

Today, Jyoti is still fighting a legal battle for the custody of her son (now over 10 years), who is being forced by his father to be raised by a stepmother again (her ex-husband’s second wife). This is the last thing Jyoti wanted to happen to her child, having been a victim of one. Being HIV stricken, she is leaving no stone unturned in spreading awareness about HIV, AIDs and what it means to the society. She has been asked to sever relations with many who discovered her HIV status.

 

“People will always blame a woman. Such is a society we live in and one tends to be judged based on your life history” is how Jyoti shrugs off all those instances of unacceptable human behavior meted out to her for no fault of hers.

 

You can read her complete story in her words here.

 

While her life is mired with medical and legal hardships, she chose to touch others’ lives in many ways, but always with love, as that’s what she desired for the most. Jyoti now has so many awards and certificates to herself, that her home doesn’t have enough space for them!

 

Jyoti’s story in her own words:

Coming from a well-to-do family, my life should have been like an icing on the cake if it wasn't for the fact that I grew up in a broken home and family. I used to lead a Cindrella type of childhood. I was locked in one room, lunch was a luxury to me and breakfast/dinner was only cornflakes or milk and bread. I have never felt "loved" or know what actually love is like. Yes, dad cared for me, at least that is what I felt but I don’t remember ever sitting on his lap or being hugged.

 

That's why I always preach and practice love - just like Mother Teresa said it, "There is more hunger for love than for anything else in this world". Yes, I failed to understand the real meaning of "love" which is highly a misunderstood and underrated topic but my experiences in life’s journey opened my eyes to what it truly means. 

 

 

Your struggles/the challenges you faced and how you managed.

 

Being Hearing Impaired: I lost my hearing at the age of 3. Though I am told it was because of a vehicular accident, doctors tend to disagree and point out that it is more because of physical abuse. Well, I have accepted my handicap as a blessing in disguise because of two reasons:

  • I get concessions in airways and railways 
  • I can block out negative energies by switching off my hearing aid yet pretending to listen to the person and not get affected.

 

*Being Domestic Violence Survivor: It made me stand up to my honour, self-worth and self-esteem, something that I didn't realise before.

 

*Being HIV Positive: Taught me to love myself first. Also taught me the art of loving "unconditionally" (role model Mother Teresa) and giving "selflessly" (role model Princess Diana)

 

 

 

Your sources of strength - These could be people or situations but ones that your draw your strength from.

I read and watch a lot of real life stories from Real People, Real Lives - in films, books, and people I meet in my journey. They have shaped and moulded me into a person I am today.

 

 

A moment of courage - A situation where you faced a very tough challenge but mustered the courage to carry on.

The day when my ex-husband clearly told me -”If you want to kill yourself, do it outside the home.” That's when I decided to live - and living was the harder as a choice, as compared to dying.

 

 

Jyoti’s vision: To eliminate the stigma, stop discrimination and make the world a better place for HIV affected people to live in - to be Accepted, To be Loved, To be Understood - without Judgement

 

We always look for light at the end of the tunnel. What if life decides your journey to be in the dark tunnel itself? Jyoti shines through her light nevertheless!

 

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Comments (31)



Sumira Bhatia

such a powerful woman. blessings to you

Shruti Giri

god...i cant even imagi3 the situation

Sheeba Vijesh

i am lost for words, here's a great courageous woman who deserves utmost respect!

Shiny Vincent

Good Lord, such a powerful lady. hats off. Wishing her the best in life.

Naiyya

Her story is so inspiring 

Navneet Chhabra

ur such a strong woman.i just can't imagine the pain u have gone through.  i think from all off my baby chakra friends would like to give u a hug and salute ...

Komal Parekh

I am at loss of words to express what massive respect she deserves. A big Salute to her for being so inspiring in such difficult circumstances.

saptaparna sarkar

true example of courage! keep fighting!

Nilofer shaikh

Such a strong woman. So much of love and compassion even after all of this.
You are a real hero.
And common people like us are affected just at the drop of a hat.
God bless you.

Anchal Talwar

Powerful and strong minded lady

Avani Tulapurkar

Such a strong woman you are ...bows to you
Every woman should lesrn from you...u are truly awesome

thaseen

Words fall short to describe ua courage, u are an true inspiration to all the women. God bless

Poonam Sarkar

You are very strong woman.. Seriously hats off to you from all of us.. And a big warm hug..

Mrs Chhoker

This is so well written.

Sonam patel

You are a true epitome of womenhood... Hats off... Respect and lots of love...

Bhawna Bhogal

Salute to u....
Lots of love to u n all d best to get ur son back

snigdha sahoo

Be Strong. All the best.

Aishwarya Shukla

Such a strong; woman u r a symbol strong woman

richa

Such a brave lady.....god bless her

Shreedevi Ganesh

Sometimes we regret for small things but you showed how to be brave enough to handle every problem....God bless you....

Tanuja

God bless u..such a beautiful n strong person with such an angelic face... i hope u n ur son get together soon...

Rashmi Sharma

There are no words to describe your courage. You really deserve respect from everyone

Maria Abdul(the lyrical momma)

I didn't even have the courage to read this post after a point and you have been thought it all.May Allah bless you with the best life here and hereafter and reward you for your patience

Varsha Rao

sach a powerful lady ....lov uh

Prachi Gaikwad

Hats off to you Jyoti...!! God bless you..

AMRITA MALLIK

This is so well written.

Krutika Gor

First of a I'm at loss of words so standing ovation for u. Hats off, kudos etc all these adjectives.. u r truly a example of what a woman's courage, valor is. More power to u. We think that our problems r so big but lady it's nothing after reading just a part of what all u have faced..
I pray to God that he give u more power and strength. Along with that I also pray u win the case so that u get ur son back. All the best..

prasanna

Jyothi you are great,an inspiration to many,hope for the best eveywhere..may god show mercy

Vipra Naik

Kuddos to Jyoti, I always read woman are strong and brave and she is perfect example for it.

Honey

Respect and salute to you .. it gave me goosebumps to imagine one being in ur situation. U are a positive soul and true symbol of womanhood

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