A Girl Is God's Blessing - Mehr

There is no more beautiful feeling than becoming a mother of a child. It might be a milestone in few people's lives or shared happiness between two loved ones or sense of achievement and I shall dwell on this later but it is a BEAUTIFUL and SOULFUL journey. I am a Mother of 15-month-old girl and love her to the core and would confess that the feeling grew on me over time and have started enjoying her company now as I was too busy doing her daily activity and chores around her didn’t realize time pass by.

 

The day my daughter was born, everything was so new and I was so lost as I couldn’t cope up with new physical and psychological changes happening around/within me. I wondered is it only me or all the new moms feel this insecurity of unknowns. I had planned for a full-time help called 'Jaapas'(they are mostly available in eastern part of India, trained to handle new born baby and the mother). She came to meet me in the hospital to see me and the child she will be taking care of for next couple of months. She began to cry and howl as she entered the room as I wondered and failed to realize the reason till she opened her mouth and said 'Hey bhagwaan humne toh ladka maanga tha yeh kya ho gaya'.  

 

I had my in-laws supporting me through that phase and witness of this sentiment too. I am probably lucky to have supporting in-laws and at least the gender of child didn’t matter to them rather my MIL was more excited to see a girl as she always wanted one. However, I wondered in midst of all the new things surrounding me, could this be for real? Yes, I could have kicked her out or scolded her or whatever but the thing that saddened me most was that I couldn’t change her mindset or the others like her around. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case with only uneducated folks like her.  

 

I was happy for self and family and never saw things from others point of view.

 

In our country, probably more in certain regions/community having a male child completes the purpose of existence for them. I discussed it with many of my friends but they said there are such people like that and you can't help it. Even if I bring up my daughter as equal but she would be part of the same society who thinks differently. Society is what we all make and still blame few others and not self for the same. I have seen some helpless friends/relatives(male) mentioning that family is pressurizing them for male child and wondered what did they do to stop it or confront them. This is the mindset one nurtures for themselves and for children to follow as they grow. Unfortunately, I don’t have a better analogy to consider but as the love for a fair skin in our country can never die down, I don’t see the love or want for male child can ever die or be satiated. How much ever one talks of equality, this thing doesn’t change. I have seen so many cases around me, where it is ok to have a single child if it is a male else you are already late for another.

 

I sincerely wish and hope that my daughter grows up to be in a society that truly celebrates life and not the gender of the child when they are born.

 

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Comments (24)



Shilpa Bajaj

Proud of you, very well penned down. Keep writing

Shruti Giri

Amazing...so well written!!

Sweta Makhecha

Jhape wali was voicing the way a significant portion of our society

Ashmi Sharma

Goos article Moneet! I believe if you change even 1 person’s mind about such bias then its job done! I hope we can give our girls a better society as its really sad when people think like that.

Sweta Makhecha

Jhape wali was just voicing how a significant part of society still thinks ... Thanks for writing this and bringing to light something that we had hoped belonged to a bygone era. We still have a long way to go..

Moneet Kaur

True Sweta. Jaape waali is just an example to reflect mindset of many others. I am sure we can come up with countless examples for the same.

Moneet Kaur

Thank you Shilpa, Shruti Giri, Ashmi for the lovely comments. Not sure it would change people perception so soon but I hope does relieve many women who have faced these situation and living upto it. Just an attempt to voice their opinion and make them feel they arent alone!!

Priya Bhatia

Thanks for writing this. Me too have a girl babyy

Priya Bhatia

Thanks for writing this ! Me too have a girl baby of 19months ! Myself & my husband feels very proud to have her & very lucky also !

Moneet Kaur

Thanks Priya. Yes, we need to be proud of our girls!!

Himani Aggarwal

Very well articulated the unfortunate situation of our society. True we cant change anyone's thinking and make them realize the blessing that daughter's are. Keep writing and all the best for the amazing journey called motherhood.

Shivani Gupta

We will change this, by celebrating our daughters every day! They are true blessings! society is us and as we accept life so will others. Courage to voice it is all that's needed and you have done it beautifully!

Moneet Kaur

Thanks Himani and Shivani. Indeed, girls are blessing. Hope if our generation carries that thought forward irrespective of the bitter experience they may or may not have had, we have a hope for better times to come for our girls..

Manpreet Kaur Bhatia

Way to go!! Beautifully explained the experience of having a baby. Rightly said on the state of the society on a girl child. Though we can’t change that but we can make sure to be even stronger than before in raising our girls and making them the women of tomorrow because we believe in the power of a girl. Hats off to girl power and God bless our girls.

Sarbjit Kaur

Excellent effort. Keep it up. Sarbjit Kaur

Moneet Kaur

Thank you so much for the encouraging comments

Swaranjit Singh

Very well written and good thought . It is high time that we Indians who , on getting married , say that "Grehlaxmi' has come follow with "Laxmi has come" on arrival of 1st girl child and welcome 2nd one too with "Mahalaxmi has come " --Swaranjit

GEETA G

Beautifully written blog

Neha Sharma

Love it!!!

Vikrant Rajput

Well thought ! Keep up it !

Abhishek Singh

Daughters are blessings!!

Amit Jain

Very well articulated ! Must read for every parent.

neha singhal

Only a mother of a daughter can understand wat u wanna say..; They jus want male child bt they don't see the pain a mother goes through while delivering a male or a female child; for both its the same thn y differentiate ..; it's a male dominating society,; so sick of the Ppl who think like tat. . U wrote it very well n I hope n pray our girls get the same respect .. cz it's a cruel world today n I want all gals to be strong happy n safe

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