Mums-To-Be, Throw A Postpartum Party Instead Of A Baby Shower
A baby shower party is become quite the norm these days, with the parents-to-be throwing pinterest-worthy parties for friends and family. But have you ever thought about throwing a party after the baby's birth, to give the new parents help when they actually need it?
We know how our lives turn upside down after the birth of a baby. Sleepless nights, overwhelming emotions and undone work is overwhelming especially for parents who live in a nuclear family. Wouldn't it be nice to have some help with the cleaning up, feeding and cooking while you catch up on some sleep? All this can be a part of a 'post partum party’ where the new mum gets actual help and will be eternally grateful.
Now you would say that you can have a maid to do all the background work. But wouldn't you prefer to have someone known rather than a maid? And we all know that finding the perfect maid is close to impossible.
So here's how you can be a good friend/relative and throw a Postpartum party for a new mum:
Talk to her about it during pregnancy
If you are an experienced parent, tell her that she will need help with laundry, cooking changing the baby, breastfeeding etc. Tell her how she and some trusted friends/relatives can help.
Get some food!
Instead of expecting to be fed, coordinate with the other well wishers and stock up the mum’s fridge. Get cooking out of her scope and make nutritious food and snacks that she can use over the week and more. You can even help her plan the menu and shop for ingredients. Making theplas, idli batter, dried fruit and nut ladoos and more will help her loads. As for you, BYOF - bring your own food to the party and then help clean up.
Help with the baby
Change a diaper or two, hold the baby, fold the laundry, do the ironing. Be sure your hands are clean before you handle the baby though, and yes, at a time only few people should be on baby duty, to prevent infections.
Keep the mum smiling
Postpartum depression is real and needs to be nipped in the bud. Just having non judgmental conversations with the mum and keeping her smiling will go a long way.
Don't crowd the mums house and trouble the new parents. Instead, take turns to come and help. Any bit of help will be appreciated, even if the couple has parents and in-laws visiting.
This postpartum party might not have beautiful pictures and many guests, but it will give a new mother solid support, something she will cherish for years to come. Mind you, you will be blessed.