23 May 2022 | 4 min Read
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After marriage, you and your partner will go through a number of different phases as you discover the little quirks and perks about each other that remained unknown before you got married. However, as the saying goes, “Marriage is not just a celebration of the union of two hearts, and not also the union of two lives, but also the union of two families”.
So, what are the different relationships that you will grow to treasure after marriage?
In-laws tend to be a bit hard to adjust to at the start, even if they are genuinely nice people. This is because your marriage is hard for them. They may be happy for you, but they just aren’t used to seeing their baby happily spending their life with you. Also, in most families, mothers are attached to their sons. This can make it difficult for wives to get along with their moms-in-law. Despite this, there are many wives who get along with their moms-in-law just fine. Keeping in mind that mothers tend to be sensitive, try to be as gentle towards them as you can. Helping out with chores and buying gifts is secondary. Try doing something more intimate like having heart-to-heart conversations about his childhood or learning more about the family history. A healthy relationship with your mother-in-law doesn’t just improve your relationship with your husband, but it also means that you can count on her to help you out when you need her.
Fathers are attached to their daughters and tend to be super possessive about them. So, when husbands try getting along with their father-in-law, it may get a bit emotional. However, husbands can definitely break the ice by reassuring them that he is going to protect you and keep you happy always. As they say, “actions speak louder than words”. So, try to build a strong relationship by including him in some weekend plans. Encourage your husband to have some male bonding time with him and help him whenever he can.
Every wife needs a female companion to pour out her feelings to. Some of these things include topics that you can’t talk about to anyone, such as complaints about your husband! Here, sisters-in-law can be your best friends when you just need to vent. Also, they know your husband so well that they may even give you advice on how to handle his short temper or his lack of it and his laziness or his perfectionist attitude. If it is something that you cannot change, at least you have someone you can laugh about it with.
This one is mainly for husbands whose wives have brothers. The 3 main bodyguards in a woman’s life are her husband, father and of course, brothers. This is exactly why you should know that if your wife’s brother is being a bit uptight, he just needs some reassurance from your side. Just as you did with the father-in-law, you would have to spend some time with him. They may be a little harder to break ice with, but once you do, you can have fun getting on your wife’s nerves together!
The rest of your life will be all about those little compromises, sacrifices and arguments that you will inevitably have. No two people think exactly alike and marriage is all about fixing those puzzle pieces together and making it work. Whether it is to do with your husband or wife, daughter or son, you have to stick together and endure life together. After all, you are partners for life.
Perhaps some of these relationships don’t apply to you, but the concept of it will. A marriage is only complete when you make an effort to be a part of each other’s lives and accept each other’s family as your own. Even if it may seem hard, it does not hurt to try.
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