24 May 2022 | 5 min Read
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After having a baby, all you time gets consumed. Everything revolves around the baby and dealing with babies is no walk in the park. You and your partner are probably going to be so busy running around making sure your baby is healthy and everything is running smoothly, that you may not be able to to find time for each other. It may feel like the romance has died out. But it doesn’t have to be that way. The romance doesn’t have to die out.
This Valentine’s day, let the passion burn again. Don’t let your children stop you from having a romantic relationship with your partner. There are many ways in which you can revive your love life. It’s not as hard as you may think, so don’t get yourself down.
Couldn’t find a babysitter? Don’t fret! You can still have a wonderful night in. Why don’t the both of you try cooking a meal together? Work together in the kitchen get playful with the flour? The possibilities are endless. It’s a way you can do something together while still within earshot of your baby in the next room. Don’t hold back! Get fancy, cook a 5 course gourmet meal and spoil yourselves. The best part about this is that cooking this meal will help the both of you work up an appetite. You can then sit together and enjoy an exquisite (or completely ordinary.. up to you) romantic dinner (maybe dim the lights and light some candles?). Maybe even pop some wine to go with the dinner. You’ll feel better about it because it’s something you both have worked on together. You don’t even have to feel guilty of leaving your baby with a non-parent.
Have another kind of night in. If you’re feeling lazy and just want to relax, order in some food or get take out and put on a movie to go with the romantic mood of the day/evening. You and your partner can laze on the couch or the bed and watch the movie whilst cuddling. What better innocent way to enjoy this day of love? The plus point is that your baby is within proximity, if they ever need you.
If you’re in the mood for a little more fun and activity, invite some friends over – other couples. You can have a couple’s night. They can bring their babies too and all your babies can have a play date, or (hopefully) a nap date. You can do a potluck and play some games (pg-13 or r-rated, we don’t judge). It may get tiring so let the other couples do their thing while the two of you spend some quality time with each other before you cap in. Hopefully everyone won’t be worrying about their kids because they’ll be in the next room.
Pardon the crass phrase, but keeping your sex life alive is a very important part of keeping the romance alive. If you haven’t been able to find too much time with each other, what better time to make sure it happens than this day specially for you two? Don’t take it lightly. Go all out this time! Women, get some sexy lingerie maybe? Men, go buy that sexy cologne that you know will get her. Try something new in bed that you’ve been wanting to try but felt too shy to. Lose your inhibitions with each other. Another thing this does is it reinforces the trust in each other which further strengthens your relationship. Side note: you probably want your baby out of the house for this because hearing the sound of a bawling baby in the middle of the heated situation isn’t just going to be a turnoff, you’ll have to deal with it too. So maybe ask someone to babysit your kid.
Take a day for just the two of you. Call in a favour from a friend or family member and ask them to babysit your child for the day, while the two of you spend some quality time together. Don’t feel guilty about it because there’s nothing wrong with taking one day to yourselves. For a change of scenery, maybe go out, on a picnic or for a walk during the day. Take a stroll in a park or drive out to the outskirts of town to some lake or hill and spend the afternoon there. Maybe make some reservations and treat yourselves to a dinner for two. It could be at a fancy restaurant or just at McDonald’s. Just enjoy each other’s company and treat it like a date – like something you did before you were married.
From a little bit of motivation from the both of you, you can enjoy a wonderful day with just the right amount of romance, lust, and love. It can be a perfect mixture of all that you want if you remember that it’s in your hands to make it happen. You have the ability and power to do it. So spend some quality time with the love of your life and forget about your worries and your cares for a day. Enjoy a wonderful day with just the two of you, the right about of romance, of love and of lust. A perfect blend of all you seek.
Remember, it is in your hands to make it happen.