Staying Home With Kids During Corona Virus Outbreak and Relatable 7 Annoying Habits

Most of my blogs have an opening line… motherhood is a joyous yet overwhelming journey, because there are times when you are caught up in a mess yet a part of you is saying you go mummy while another compels you to close yourself in a closet to cry or laugh to your heart’s desire. In the end,  we look at our precious and all those feelings trickle down the cheeks with a smile only a mother knows!

Many of you have been there done that, many of you are soon to be there and there is you, like me just hanging in there.

While we’re staying home fighting against the corona virus outbreak, these 7 toddler behaviours are currently driving me crazy. Are there any that are pressing your buttons? If so, how are you dealing with them?

1. The Gender discriminators

He has recently developed an understanding that Boys and Girls have slightly different appearances and I sank in feeling my theory of #agenerationwithoutgenderbias going to trash… one fine day, when we were in a public toilet, he asked “Mumma, why do girls pee sitting and boys pee standing?” Like any mother I explained… the next question followed was, “Then why I should sit down to do potty? I’m a boy I can stand and poop” I didn’t know how to answer that, just replied because you’ll soil yourself and then those Kaise? Kaise? Kaise (how) mumma followed & drama started and not to forget we were still inside I could sense a lot of women laughing on the outside! I decided to cut the wings of his imagination on this point. Curiosity is good but not just in one direction you know!

2. The curious case of every toddler

My son is a pre-schooler & pretty much asks too many questions… I bet you won’t get bored while conversing with this 3 year old. He has answers to everything you ask & has triple the number of questions to ask you! It is overwhelming! Children just don’t stop.

3. Their fears and discomfort

In Indian families, there’s often a term called “dar baith jana” I hope many of you know what I’m talking about…
So Indian relatives don’t usually know how to deal with innocence of children, it amuses them to scare children, it may be fun or a way to get things dome faster with a pre-schooler or even a kid till they don’t understand difference between reality and imagination (children of age 2-8 years), but nobody knows the impact on child’s psyche… it gets tough for the child to be independent and even tougher for its parents to make them come out of it.
Try and teach your child to avoid such people and if its unavoidable, become a helicopter parent. Because, children, they don’t lie! Specially when it comes to their fears or discomfort. Listen to them.

4. The Newton factor

This is a constant at my home… why do you have to throw everything every time? And to be honest, I get really mad at him with this… but the key is… children learn about things this way, you can inculcate habit of cleaning up the mess after they are done or tell them about fixed times or area of such messy play, trust me they’re smarter than we imagine and they’ll do anything to make their mumma happy!

5. My bored toddler

Children have a very small attention span to anything, if your child makes something all by himself, he is right to demand appreciation… you should always encourage them. But when they fail at their trails, they feel miserable and will still come to you for encouragement, don’t teach them then and there, I’m saying with my experience.
My son loves free play and hates structured play… especially when he feels I’m trying to teach him, he’s 3 and I practice home schooling with him these days.
He loves painting randomly, building blocks and reciting poems.. if he’s quiet, he must be doing something constructive I know, but as soon as we start with a pencil and a workbook, he gets all verbal I can’t write, I am not able to do anything, you help me out, I don’t like this, this is messy, this is mot good etc. etc. Just the way he hates being fed, he hates studies. I know its too early for me to complain on this… but its my never ending chase… so when he’s out of his trauma of being made to sit in one place for 20 min or more, we restart… changing my strategies of carrot and sticks.
Toddlers get frustrated easily because they are learning to communicate and also learning to control their emotions. They often express themselves through physical means. Set up clear and specific rules about acceptable toddler behaviour with logical consequences for misbehaviour. Toddlers will repeatedly try to push the boundaries so consistency and follow through is really key to curbing the inappropriate physical behaviour. It also helps if toddlers are well rested and have a safe place to release their energy. The minute my son starts getting physical I know it’s either time for a nap, snack or time to head outside for a new activity. While we can’t go out now, I flip the switch and put on some music and dance with him.

6. Little Tornado

Toddlers have lots of energy. It can be frustrating for us to monitor or tame their constant motion, running and spinning. For me, this toddler behaviour is one that I’ve learned to simply enjoy and take in stride. I find most people are fairly tolerant of exuberant child behaviour – it must be that charming, impish smile. But yes, we try to channelize it by playing outdoor games indoors and making models of his favourite places using building blocks.

7. My uncle scrooge

Its embarrassing for me as parent when people from close family ask my son (even of its over a video call) to share his favourite food or toy or book and they get an abrupt NO its mine as a reply, I always find myself intervening and saying sharing is caring to him… sometimes he becomes willing sometimes it doesn’t work that way… he shares things with some people he wishes to, with others it’s opposite.

But its too soon for us to expect a child to “Behave” a certain way, especially when it comes to complex habits and a lot of reasoning, keep the positive reinforcement in place and you’ll have one marvellous child.

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