1 Nov 2021 | 3 min Read
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Children quickly learn how to behave when they get positive and consistent guidance from their parents. It means giving children positive attention when they act well, rather than only applying consequences when they do something wrong.
Here are some practical tips for putting a positive approach into action.
Tips for developing good behavior in kids
Show your child how you feel
When you honestly tell your child how you feel about their incorrect behavior, it will help your child see their feelings in yours. And if you start sentences with ‘I,’ it gives your child the chance to see things from your perspective. For example, ‘I feel upset because there is so much noise here, and I can’t attend my call.’
Catch your child being good
Give some positive feedback to your child when you see him doing a task in a way you have taught him to do. Positive feedback works better than preaching or giving lectures to a child. You may share positive feedback like this – ‘Wow, you are playing so nicely. I really like the way you are steeping ahead in this game.’
Get Down to your child’s level.
When you get close to your child’s level, you better understand their feeling. For example, when you say, ‘I can feel it is sad to lose a game,’ you explain empathy and how it can heal anyone’s bad state of mind.
When you follow through with your promises, your child understands the importance of commitment. It will further give your child a sense of responsibility towards their work. Hence, if you promise your child to take him for a walk, never fail to forget. If you start ignoring your promises, your child will start doing the same.
Keep things simple.
Instructions for your child should be simple and clear to understand. It will be easy for him to remember and follow them without much parent’s intervention. Add positive rules rather than negative ones. For example, use the sentence like – ‘Please, switch off the lights and fan when there is no one in the room’ instead of ‘Don’t keep the fan and lights switched on while leaving the room.’ Favorable rules have a better impact on children as they add logic behind them. In contrast, negative rules add consequences and fear.
Say it once and move on.
Do not repeat the instructions multiple times to your child. Doing so can make your child feel irritated and annoyed. If you want your child to behave correctly, give him one last chance to cooperate, else consequences will apply. If your child still does not understand and follows the correct way, start counting to three.