25 Apr 2022 | 3 min Read
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Most children pick up the habit of lying. It is an indication that the child is beginning to think and is trying to manipulate things into going their way. Kids lie for a variety of reasons – they might be afraid of the repercussions of something they did, they might be worried about getting into trouble, they might feel ashamed, they might find lying easier than owning up to the truth, or because they genuinely believed something that was a lie.
Whatever the reason may be, it is important to help children understand the importance of honesty and control the urge to lie among kids, without which lying might become habitual. We know it is only natural to feel angry or disappointed to hear your child lie, but do keep in mind that your child is still growing up, and that shouting at him/her will only do more damage.
Here are a few things you can do if your children lie.
1. Understand why
Before going ballistic and screaming at them, pause and think about why they lied. There is usually a reason why children lie, and understanding the reason makes it much better to deal with the lying. More often than not, kids lie because it makes sense in their heads, and once we understand that they have grown up enough to start lying, we can try dealing with the situation in a better way.
2. Set an example yourself
Children learn by following, and if you set an example by always being honest and truthful, they will follow suit. Walk the talk, and when you advise them to be truthful, show them how to do it.
3. Let your kid know they can trust you
Kids start lying when they are afraid of the reactions they might get if they reveal something. For that to go, make sure your kid knows that you are a safe haven and that you can be trusted. That way, s/he has the confidence to own up to you when they have done something wrong instead of lying.
4. Make a connection
Build a relationship with your child that fosters honesty and they will value it. A child who feels connected with you and trusts you will be more willing to share with you. The more you are connected, the lesser the chances are of your child lying to you.
5. Make them value truth
Teach your child that truth and honesty are two qualities that undermine the basis of one’s personality, and they make up who you are as a person. Be open with your child, and ensure that they learn that trust can only be gained by being truthful.
6. Differentiate between the behaviour and the person
It would be easy to address your child as a ‘liar’ and call them names. Rather, we suggest that you try to rectify the behaviour and don’t indulge in name-calling and judging. Rather than commenting on the person, express disappointment with the behaviour. That would help your child feel guilty and, in turn, they will try and repair whatever they have done wrong.
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