THE MAZE OF RELATIONSHIPS..
I am not ashamed to admit that I was and am still afraid of the term “relations”. No wonder I can count on my fingers the number of relatives I am happy to see. I think I inherited this trait from my mother. She is an extremely strong headed woman and has a big influence on me. We have a lot of things in common – we both are short-tempered, hate shady people and are socially awkward. I don’t know why but as soon as I find myself surrounded by people I cannot relate to, I start feeling extremely uncomfortable and anxious. I feel as if I am wasting my time which could have been used for something productive.
So I mostly avoid social gatherings where it is pre-decided that bitching about each other will be the top priority. But what if you are destined to deal with some extremely toxic people for the rest of your life just because they are in some close relation to you. This is where the real struggle starts. I am still in the process of mastering the art but have learned that there are few things which can help you attain your peace of mind amidst a sea of negativity.
1. The top mantra is to ignore such human beings for the sake of your own sanity. But we are also humans after all and there are times that we just cannot deal with it anymore. What to do then? Follow the next point.
2. Talk to the person about the things which is bothering you. Do not pick up a fight. Remain calm and try to make him understand that things cannot work the way they are going. Listen to the other side as well.
3. When you are done talking about the issue, let it go. Do not store it somewhere at the back of your mind just to bring it to the table again when you go out of weapons.
4. Listen to some soothing music when you are dealing with such emotional tussles. It really helps in decluttering your mind.
5. Try not to interfere in someone else’s life. Understand that others need their privacy as much as you do.
6. Talk openly instead of discussing things behind the back. That saves a lot of relations from going sour.
7.Last but not the least, keep your mind pre-occupied with the things that make you happy like writing, painting, playing with your kid etc. It helps in draining all the negative energy out of your system.
We are social animals and cannot live in isolation but we can definitely work to make the whole experience a pleasant one. As hard as we try, there are bound to be occasions when things do not go as planned. If we deal with such issues with a calm and cool mind, a lot of damage can be restored.
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I am not ashamed to admit that I was and am still afraid of the term “relations”. No wonder I can count on my fingers the number of relatives I am happy to see. I think I inherited this trait from my mother. She is an extremely strong headed woman and has a big influence on me. We have a lot of things in common – we both are short-tempered, hate shady people and are socially awkward. I don’t know why but as soon as I find myself surrounded by people I cannot relate to, I start feeling extremely uncomfortable and anxious. I feel as if I am wasting my time which could have been used for something productive.
So I mostly avoid social gatherings where it is pre-decided that bitching about each other will be the top priority. But what if you are destined to deal with some extremely toxic people for the rest of your life just because they are in some close relation to you. This is where the real struggle starts. I am still in the process of mastering the art but have learned that there are few things which can help you attain your peace of mind amidst a sea of negativity.
1. The top mantra is to ignore such human beings for the sake of your own sanity. But we are also humans after all and there are times that we just cannot deal with it anymore. What to do then? Follow the next point.
2. Talk to the person about the things which is bothering you. Do not pick up a fight. Remain calm and try to make him understand that things cannot work the way they are going. Listen to the other side as well.
3. When you are done talking about the issue, let it go. Do not store it somewhere at the back of your mind just to bring it to the table again when you go out of weapons.
4. Listen to some soothing music when you are dealing with such emotional tussles. It really helps in decluttering your mind.
5. Try not to interfere in someone else’s life. Understand that others need their privacy as much as you do.
6. Talk openly instead of discussing things behind the back. That saves a lot of relations from going sour.
7.Last but not the least, keep your mind pre-occupied with the things that make you happy like writing, painting, playing with your kid etc. It helps in draining all the negative energy out of your system.
We are social animals and cannot live in isolation but we can definitely work to make the whole experience a pleasant one. As hard as we try, there are bound to be occasions when things do not go as planned. If we deal with such issues with a calm and cool mind, a lot of damage can be restored.
#bloggifiedmom #mindtherapy #lucknowmoms #foodforthought
My blog - bloggifiedmom.wordpress.com
Prashanthi srikanth
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25 Jan 2018